Communication Evaluations

The first person who evaluated me was my boyfriend. His evaluations were very similar to how I evaluated myself. I believe the reason for this is because he knows me better sometimes than I even know myself. The Communication Anxiety Inventory results were the only results which were different from my own. I am a “situational” anxious person. Rich’s perception of me is that I have an elevated level of communication anxiety. The perceptions of me as a communicator differ from how Rich perceives me because I sometimes think I am less nervous than I actually am. I think that it is a good thing that I do not let my anxiety in situations completely take me over.

The second person who evaluated me was my director at the child care center where I work. I was impressed with how my director saw me as a communicator because as an Assistant Director, I am consistently communicating with others. I learned that I show an efficient way to communicate. I learned that even thought I may feel anxious about communicating at times; I am able to control my anxiety when it matters most. The perceptions of me as a communicator differ from how my director perceives me because I perceive myself as not as effective of a communicator that my director perceives me. It is comforting to know that my boss looks at me as a sufficient communicator.

The one thing that surprised me the most was how impressed my director is with my communication as a whole. It makes me happy to know that my hard work of communicating with others is paying off. At times, it is difficult to communicate effectively with others. I think by continuing to communicate with many people on a daily basis, I will begin to feel more and more comfortable communicating in different situations.

I learned that I am a “people-oriented” communicator. It is important that when working within the field of early childhood education that I efficiently communicate with people on a daily basis. Familiarizing myself with diverse individuals will continue to help me be grow as a “people-oriented” communicator.  

I also learned that I can have verbal aggression at times which can offend other people. I need to pay close attention to the comments that I make when communicating with others because the last thing I want to do it offend another person.

Communication

Yes, I do communicate differently with my colleagues at school, members of my neighborhood, people I interact with at work, as well as with my family. Depending on the group of people I am with and how comfortable I feel, depends on how outgoing I am. At specific times, I find myself feeling uncomfortable with people of diverse cultures.

In the work environment, I have been working in a management position. I have more interactions with individuals of other cultures which is helping my overall understanding of communication with people of diverse race, religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation, varying abilities, and so on.

With my family, I am always very comfortable. I act most like myself when I am with my family and friends.

I am the type of person where it takes me a while to trust someone before I open up. So in my neighborhood, I am a very quiet and laid back person because I do not know my neighbors too well.

Interactions in the T.V. show “Two and A Half Men”

Interactions in the T.V. show “Two and A Half Men”

The television show that I do not normally watch is “Two and a Half Men.” For this assignment, I “DVRed” an episode with the sound off. Based on the ways that I saw the characters on the show interact with one another, I made an assumption of who had close relationships and how the characters were feeling throughout the episode based on their non-verbal cues.

For this show, there is a lot of intimacy throughout some of the episodes. Based on the nonverbal behavior, I noticed a lot of sexual attraction between Charlie and the females he interacts with. I also noticed the woman who takes care of the house to look angry or upset throughout the entire episode. I notice the smirks on Jake’s face, which had me thinking he was getting into mischief. I also noticed the awkwardness and nervousness of Alan from his facial expressions and overall demeanor.

The assumptions that I made about the character and plot based on the ways I interpreted the communication that I observed was that there are close relationships between some of the characters in the plot, Charlie has many interactions with females, Berta is unhappy, Jake is mischievous, and Alan is awkward.

I think that if this was a show that I normally watched, I would have been more accurate. Even though that I did have a good idea of the characters throughout the show, I would have been able to describe why the characters felt the way that they did or why they had one facial expression but felt a whole different way.

Communication is Key!

The person that I am going to write about is the director of the center in which I work. My director demonstrates competent communication with myself, the assistant director, the teachers, and the families at our center. She is a very open-communicator and has formed relationships with each person who is a part of our center’s community. She makes sure to greet families each day, talk directly to the family members by first name, addresses the children as well as the needs that they may have, respond to the teacher’s needs, and keeps everyone updated and on the same page. Each and every day, I learn something knew from this person. I follow a lot of what I learn from my drirector but I also put my own twist on many particular issues that arise. I am in the learning process and she is helping me by the communication that I see on a daily basis.

The end has come :)

One hope that I have when I think about working with children and families who come from diverse backgrounds is that as I work with these families, I am able to make them feel comfortable. I hope that the diverse families that I work with understand how much I care for them. I hope that the families feel as if I am someone they can come for if they need support or have a question regarding their child’s care.

One goal that I would like to set for the early childhood field related to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice is as an early childhood professional - who works with other early childhood professionals on a daily basis - I want to make sure that other’s understand the importance of diversity.  I have been sharing articles that I find to continue to inform the staff members at my center how important it is to be aware of the impact that diversity has on children. It is also important to understand how to deal with issues that arise that relate to diversity of others. By setting a goal to try to continue to inform other early childhood professionals with information that I learn, I am able to reduce the issues related to diversity, equity, and social justice in the early childhood field.

I would like to thank all of my colleagues who have shared their feedback, stories, and insights throughout our course together. I learn much more than what a book could teach me from each of you. Best of luck to you in your future! I hope to share future classes together at our time here at WaldenUniversity.

The "family" from Algeria

The name of “my family’s” country of origin is Algeria, Africa.

Five ways I would prepare myself to be culturally responsive towards the family is the following:

1.)    I would research the country itself – where the country is located, demographics of the country, etc.

2.)    I would look into the educational program that is held within the country and make comparisons to our education program as well as finding the differences. This would be important because it would allow for important information to be passed along to teachers so that they are able to know what to expect from the child(ren) in an educational setting.

3.)    I would want to look into finding out if the family/child(ren) can speak/understand English. Depending if the family/child(ren) can speak the English language, I would have to figure a way to translate so that I can explain to them in their language the policies, procedures, and payment method of our center.

4.)    I would look into finding out about the countries cultural background and the specific ways that the individuals from this country interact and communicate with others on a daily basis. There may be certain gestures that this country uses in order to communicate and it is important to understand this as a person who will be working with these people and having no idea of the countries origin.

5.)    I would also prepare myself and the teachers by making sure that the teachers are aware of the child(ren) and the country at which they are coming from. In each of ouir classroom we have pictures to represent diversity and the children in our classes. I would ask the teachers to add pictures to help the child(ren) feel welcome in our classroom.

 

I would hope that these preparations will benefit myself as well as the family by opening up my horizons to more diverse groups of people as well as showing the family how the leaders at our center want to connect to them at a personal level.  I would hope that my preparations begin as a positive learning experience for myself as well as the family.

The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression

An incident where I witnessed a group of people as the target of bias, prejudice, and oppression actually occurred this past week. Last night I went to the Philadelphia’s Gay Men’s Choir Christmas Show. I went with a few close family members and the show was absolutely amazing! Earlier in the week when I told an acquaintance that I was attending the show as my Friday night event, I had a response which was the target of bias, prejudice, and oppression against gay men. The individual made a comment that referred to gay men in a very negative way and questioned why I would ever attend an event such as this.

The way that this person looked at this show as a negative event to attend because it was surrounded by the gay community is representative of diminishing equity. This person did not look at it this event as a Christmas show which was based upon the wondering music of the season with very talented human being performing the joyful music of the holiday season.  It was an injustice comment that was made and example of what the LGBT community deals with on a daily basis.

During this incident, I felt very angry and offended for the individuals who performed so wonderfully last night. How dare a person who has no idea how much dedication and time these men put into the show question me on why I would want to go support and see this show? I also felt sad for the person who made this comment because they I was able to realize that they must not fully understand the meaning of diversity.

The individual who made the negative comment would have to branch out and learn the meaning of diversity in order to turn this incident into an opportunity for greater equity. Next time. I will possibly invite this individual to come see the show with me so that they are able to experience the fabulous performers and this would perhaps take away from the negative outlook this person has on the LGBT community.